Thank-you cards: how soon, and what to write
The thank-you card has a half-life: sent within a week it reads as gracious, within a month as adequate, and after that as an apology. The fix is simple — send it while the gratitude is still warm. Here are the real deadlines by occasion.
Rule of thumb: start 3 daysahead. That's enough time to choose a card, write something real, and let the mail do its slow, charming thing.
Timing and message tips
General rule: mail within 3–7 days of the gift, dinner, or favor. The card should arrive while they still remember doing the nice thing.
Wedding gifts are the exception: etiquette grants up to 3 months, but couples who batch 20 cards a week finish; couples who wait for a free weekend never do.
After a job interview, email your thanks within 24 hours — and for a role you really want, a mailed card behind it is a memorable double-tap.
The formula is three sentences: name the thing, say how you're using/enjoying it, and say what the person means to you. Done.
Never apologize for lateness at length — one clause ("belatedly but sincerely") and move on to the actual gratitude.
Set a reminder for 3 days after any occasion where you received something. Momentum is the entire game with thank-you notes.
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